Renowned Islamic
scholar, Ustaz Abdulfattah Adeyemi has told women that it is greedy of
them to want to have their husbands to themselves.Adeyemi, who is also
the founder of Baynakum Family Counseling Centre said women who try to
keep their husbands from practising polygamy are "thieves" who want
everything for themselves. He informed Muslim women that they only have
25% of their husbands while the other 75% belongs to other women. He
then encouraged them to be happy to share their husbands with other
women because men are the Angels that Allah sends to help women.The
cleric said this in a paper titled, "Charity, a path to Jannah," which
he presented in Abuja during the inauguration of Sisters of Jannah, a
Muslim women’s charity organisation.Ustaz admonished women "not to deny
their husbands polygamy," but should only pray that the husbands treat
all equally in any action taken.He said:Let me tell you that your
husband is only yours 25 per cent; your husband is not your property;
your only share of him is 25 per cent. The remaining 75 per cent belongs
to other women.If you want your husband 100 per cent, then you are a
thief; you are going beyond the 25 per cent that is yours; the remaining
75 per cent belongs to other ladies.Don’t think that because you are
wives, other women should not share your husbands.He lamented the
behaviour of some "overprotective" married women who deny the men their
wishes of having more wives and described such as "ungodly."Ustaz
Adeyemi added that overprotective women have only served to make many
men devise "smart means" of engaging in illegal relationships outside
their matrimonial homes. He urged housewives to "stop being
unnecessarily jealous of their husbands’ relationships
outside."According to him, men can only be faithful when they die. He
said:Men are not stupid, the men are even becoming smart. It’s until
when some die that you know how many children they have.I am not saying
that is what happens every time; but if you think you are too smart, men
are smarter.You have never been a man before in your life, you can’t
imagine what goes through in the minds of men. Let us fear Allah, as
much as possible.If Allah makes it easy for you, if they ask you to
shift, please shift a little so that somebody else can also sit down.And
you that is asking somebody else to shift, you have to fear Allah; you
that they want to allow to come in, fear Allah. Don’t go there and
scatter their lives for them. Don’t go there and constitute problem for
them.The man may be doing it for the sake of Allah, don’t let him regret
it.Ustaz Adeyemi also blamed women for the failure of most polygamous
homes and asked them to have a change of heart.He said:Whenever you see
polygamy that is not successful, it is because of a woman.Na woman dey
do woman. The one that is inside the house and the one that is coming
into the house and both women.It is women that are the enemies of
women.If the man is trying to be just, it is the other woman that will
go and enter him and turn his head the other way. You will be going
North and he will be going South.It is two women that are both
diabolical because of a man. We men are the Angels that Allah sends to
help women.Your husband is only 25% yours. Learn to share him with other women"- Muslim cleric tells women not to be greedy
Renowned Islamic
scholar, Ustaz Abdulfattah Adeyemi has told women that it is greedy of
them to want to have their husbands to themselves.Adeyemi, who is also
the founder of Baynakum Family Counseling Centre said women who try to
keep their husbands from practising polygamy are "thieves" who want
everything for themselves. He informed Muslim women that they only have
25% of their husbands while the other 75% belongs to other women. He
then encouraged them to be happy to share their husbands with other
women because men are the Angels that Allah sends to help women.The
cleric said this in a paper titled, "Charity, a path to Jannah," which
he presented in Abuja during the inauguration of Sisters of Jannah, a
Muslim women’s charity organisation.Ustaz admonished women "not to deny
their husbands polygamy," but should only pray that the husbands treat
all equally in any action taken.He said:Let me tell you that your
husband is only yours 25 per cent; your husband is not your property;
your only share of him is 25 per cent. The remaining 75 per cent belongs
to other women.If you want your husband 100 per cent, then you are a
thief; you are going beyond the 25 per cent that is yours; the remaining
75 per cent belongs to other ladies.Don’t think that because you are
wives, other women should not share your husbands.He lamented the
behaviour of some "overprotective" married women who deny the men their
wishes of having more wives and described such as "ungodly."Ustaz
Adeyemi added that overprotective women have only served to make many
men devise "smart means" of engaging in illegal relationships outside
their matrimonial homes. He urged housewives to "stop being
unnecessarily jealous of their husbands’ relationships
outside."According to him, men can only be faithful when they die. He
said:Men are not stupid, the men are even becoming smart. It’s until
when some die that you know how many children they have.I am not saying
that is what happens every time; but if you think you are too smart, men
are smarter.You have never been a man before in your life, you can’t
imagine what goes through in the minds of men. Let us fear Allah, as
much as possible.If Allah makes it easy for you, if they ask you to
shift, please shift a little so that somebody else can also sit down.And
you that is asking somebody else to shift, you have to fear Allah; you
that they want to allow to come in, fear Allah. Don’t go there and
scatter their lives for them. Don’t go there and constitute problem for
them.The man may be doing it for the sake of Allah, don’t let him regret
it.Ustaz Adeyemi also blamed women for the failure of most polygamous
homes and asked them to have a change of heart.He said:Whenever you see
polygamy that is not successful, it is because of a woman.Na woman dey
do woman. The one that is inside the house and the one that is coming
into the house and both women.It is women that are the enemies of
women.If the man is trying to be just, it is the other woman that will
go and enter him and turn his head the other way. You will be going
North and he will be going South.It is two women that are both
diabolical because of a man. We men are the Angels that Allah sends to
help women.
